He helped lay out the path for me but I had to find it. No amount of telling me would make a difference. He had tried to help me let go of being codependent with my mother. I then remembered that my ex-husband had tried to talk to me about this. It’s almost as if the colours and textures change. It’s such a strange feeling when the world almost skips a beat as it shifts to show you a different reality. And he was also expected to enable the narcissist, my father. My husband wasn’t just married to me – he was also married to my mother. I needed to be emotionally stable to be able to deal with them. I realised I’d done it to protect myself from their judgement and manipulation. This motivated me to start reading and talking to others and the shift started. My natural defence was to not tell my parents and initially, I struggled to even explain to myself why. One of my major shifts was when I first separated from my husband. I’ve been lucky to have many aha moments.
What if we could view everything in a completely non-biased view? Perhaps we’d understand each other better, see each other’s suffering more easily and therefore have more compassion with others and ourselves. However, often those stories are very one-sided and viewed through the lens of our culture, ego or even our genes. Our brains are very clever at telling stories to help us cut through the overload of information we are constantly being bombarded with. The Story-Telling MindĮach aha moment is an important clue to who we are. Stepping back and seeing something in a different way is one of the most powerful ways to let go of our issues or emotions. Those moments usually happen when we let ourselves step outside of our minds. It doesn’t matter what it is – it could be anything from finally understanding why self-care is important to suddenly seeing someone else’s viewpoint. Ever had that “a-ha” moment? Ever thought, oh wow, I suddenly get it? Everything just clicks.
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